Finding Freedom

Let me tell you a little something; there’s no “scale” to struggle. No competition about who’s hurting the most. No awards for the biggest wound.

Seeing others move through their challenges in no way invalidates your own journey. Someone else having it “worse” than you doesn’t mean that what you’re feeling, or dealing with, or going through is any less worthy of assistance or attention. Another person’s pain doesn’t take the sting out of yours. . 
They say that comparison is the thief of joy, but I’d argue that it’s the thief of healing, too. Because until you can own your pain, your story - until you can hold it, and observe it, and examine it - you’ll never be able to release it. To heal it.

I was knee deep in dirty nappies and postnatal depression and anxiety, telling myself to be #grateful. And don’t get me wrong, gratitude and reality checking yourself is so important. But when you’re spending most of the day travelling deeper into a whirlpool of thoughts - how your baby was going to suffocate in her sleep, visualising your toddler accidentally getting hit by a car, feeling unable to even breathe because of the knot of panic in your chest… well, hashtags only get so far.

Yet, I still felt unworthy of my feelings. “You’ve got healthy kids, you’ve got a great marriage, beautiful friends - you shouldn’t feel like this…”… And, ultimately, my refusal to accept that I was hurting meant that I didn’t seek help anywhere near early enough.

But the day when I finally reached out and admitted - to others, yes, but to myself mostly - that I was not okay… well, that was the day I could start healing, that I could face my past and my present, and begin to think about a future where this pain didn’t exist.

Being able to use my skills, my heart, and the incredible tool that is Rapid Transformational Therapy to help people own their pain, their story - to help them hold it, observe it, examine it; to release it, and heal it... it absolutely lights me up. Because we’re all as entitled to our pain as we are to freedom from it, and your freedom is my absolute calling.

If you want to chat RTT, or PND, or even just life, please do get in touch - I’m right here.